Grandparent Love

Thursday, February 12, 2015

"What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies." -Rudy Giuliani

When I would dream of becoming a mother, I would simultaneously dream about my parents becoming grandparents. I only have one grandmother that I've ever known, and because she lived in another state we've never been close. I did have a great childhood; there was always an adventure, a road trip to somewhere, thought-out gift baskets to wake up to on Valentine's Day or Easter, playing outside until it was dark, the best DIY birthday parties (I recall the BEST birthday I ever had was my "backwards party" when I turned six years old. My mom and I spent hours writing out invitations backwards, we played backward games, dressed in clothes inside out... man, I may have to recreate this). 

We'd have dance parties in the living room, blasting Paula Abdul or Vanilla Ice while my parents videotaped our crazy dance moves. I was the baby of the family, so naturally, everything seemed exciting to me. My parents were great: My mom always coming up with the most creative things to do or make, and my dad always making silly faces and encouraging me to be goofy. So, when I would think about having a babe of my own, I knew that my parents would re-live these moments and I'd get to see those parents all over again.

16 months later, It's been a beautiful, amazing thing. Lucca is so excited to see his "Mags" and loves to tell her stories and cuddle up close with her. My dad loves to chase Lucca around the house, show him different types of tools, and throw him up in the air and onto the couch. He gives him chocolate pops as an "appetizer" before dinner and makes the same silly faces he made at me some 20+ years ago. These are only things grandparents can offer. And it seriously makes me so sappy and sentimental and like I'm in a timewarp. I freaking love it. 
I love that my parents and I can share this experience together. Sure, things weren't always what they seemed to be through my baby-of-the-family rose-colored glasses, but I was little and what I remember is that they made life great for me. And experiencing raising a child with them in my life now is the most wonderful thing I can think of. I love hearing stories that start off with "when you were little..." or when they can fully relate to my new-parent exhaustion when they say "Oh I remember that stage". I love that Lucca looks to his grandparents and remembers certain things about them. When he gets older I look forward to the days that he wants to go to his grandparents' houses, or call them on the phone "just because". 
It's been a great journey so far, and it's only the beginning...

1 comment:

  1. Lo ....Thank you this is truly a beautiful gift. Love you.